A Letter To My Daughter On Her 7th Birthday (back-posted from an old site)

Seven years have come and past. You’ve grown so much; it’s hard to believe that you’re real sometimes. From a small 8 pound 3 ounce bundle of joy, to the 50 or so pounds of intelligence and confidence you are today. We have both been through some tough times, some bad memories and some sad moments, but you and I are still together, and we will always be so.

Your smile reminds me of the times we’ve spent together, learning new things about each other and the world around us. Your laugh makes me smile, no matter how sad I feel. Your free spirit and willingness to keep trying remind me of how important it is to show you that even though bad things happen, they don’t have to slow you down.

Remember always that a smile has more impact than a frown, and an outstretched hand will always help someone who needs a pick-me-up. The world may not always be sunny and happy, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be. The grass continues to grow, and the sun continues to shine no matter what people around you are saying, so don’t let the little things bring you down. You are better than that, because you are strong and confident and you know your place in the world. Your place is what you make it, so if you want a happy world then you have to breed happiness and positivity.

The years will always bring some hardship. Some pain, some loss. But how you work through it is what determines your strength, your character. There will always be other people who will try to knock you down, try to make you think that you are less than what you are.

Stay strong, because the people who want to knock you down are only doing so because they want you on their level. If you are happy and powerful, then you have the power to stand above them and be a good model. Maybe you won’t change all of their minds, but maybe you can help someone who has been knocked down. Bring people up to your level and let them see that no matter what you wear, and no matter who your parents are, you have the ability and the strength to be beautiful and confident.

Don’t let anyone tell you that there is something wrong with you because you’re different than them. Your difference is what makes you who you really are. Embrace it, love it, and don’t be afraid to let people know that you are wonderful the way you are.

No one can make you feel bad about yourself if you don’t let them. Whether you want to be a scientist, a doctor, a midwife, an actress or an activist, be all that you can be and be true to yourself. Because no one else can be quite like you, no matter how hard they try.

Promise me that you won’t let people tell you what you can and can’t do. Follow your dreams forever like you do now. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from pushing forwards and making your world exactly how you imagine it should be. The only thing that can prevent you from achieving your dreams is you. Let others be constrained by boxes and labels, but don’t let them put you in the same box.

Don’t fear being different, because it’s such a wonderful thing. Be true to yourself and you will always have people around you who love you and care about you. Honesty truly is a virtue, and having a virtuous heart and soul is the number one way to stay happy and honest. Love will guide you and you will guide it. Make this life your own and no one will ever be able to keep you down.

I love you always, don’t grow up too fast.

Love always and forever,


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